Signs a Girl is Attracted to Asian Men

I receive thousands of emails from my fans asking for interracial dating advice for Asian men as well as the #1 question that gets asked is, “How should i know if she (usually a white girl, however, not always) is interested in dating Asian men?”

As your Asian Dating Coach, however, I’m finally answering the question due to the fact its been asked so many times ad naseum. I’m finally likely to put it to bed for that first and before despite my misgivings.

Vietnamese Guys

I used to be recently reminded with this controversial topic (and I’ll cover the key reason why it’s so controversial extensively at the end) on one of my many flights training men within the art of attraction after i sat next to a really pretty, blonde and bubbly California surfer kind of girl.

In our conversation, she made lots of the verbal indicators of interest that I’ve heard in the past and that I’ve come to recognize as flirtatious signals from your woman when she’s attracted specifically to Asian men (and therefore to the likes of you and I).

This is admittedly a rarer kind of reverse Yellow Fever fraught with it’s own dangers then one in which I’ll go more into detail during my next article about single, white females who intentionally exploit Asian men.

So here is a list of a number of the things these girls will consciously do in order to let me know they want a samurai in shining armor (even though I use the term white female, the simple truth is other women from Dark to Latin American, will also use the same flirting signals):

10 Signs a lady is Attracted to Asian Men

1. She “Knows” an Asian language:

Asian tattoos are a good conversation starter with females!

Maybe you’ve seen this kind - they put Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Vietnamese, etc. under “languages you know” on Facebook (or put on an Chinese/Asian tramp stamp) while they really only know how to obtain pho.

Should you encounter these loquacious ladies, gentlemen, I propose an awesome sexual bantering tip because all women wants to be cultured. You, as a cosmopolitan man of the world, are going to teach her an expression in your language. Here’s a good example for you Chinese speakers.

First, act very serious and say something similar to, “Let me teach you something. You’ll find this valuable in the far reaches within my country. Say this: Wo xi huan gou pa shi.”

Make her repeat it. Then she’ll ask “What did I only say?”

And you’ll say (within the most PLAYFUL tone and smile you can handle) “You just said ‘I like it doggy-style!’” But then go from playful to romantic. After she laughs off her embarrassment, make use of your phrases to compliment her.

Teach her “Wo hao xi huan ni de xiao” and, after she repeats it, she’ll ask again. You’ll say, “It means ‘I really like your laugh.’”

And she’ll laugh again. Continue but turn it from playful to romantic. “You have beautiful eyes,” or “Your smile is amazing,” are flirtatious phrases shrouded inside a learning experience.

Vietnamese Guys

Girls who've had the pleasure with this situation tell me it’s unique the other they’ve never forgotten. Make sure to utilize it if you know your native language!

2. She Has Asian Friends:

Larissa Riquelme shot to fame when she announced at the World Cup that they wanted a Korean boyfriend

Her closest friend is Chinese. Her college roommate was Korean. She lived next door to a Vietanemse family. Even though they don’t have these experiences they’ll say they've got some sort of Asian acceptance to produce her seem more receptive. They’ll make use of the most random things too; a really random story I’ve heard is the place one girl’s delivery room doctor was a Japanese guy, so since she was “born into the arms of an Asian man” she should “die in the arms of an Asian man as well.” The point is, they are trying to form some sort of connection. [EXAMPLE: Paraguayan model Larissa Riquelme was brought to the idea of dating Asian men by a Korean acquaintance]

3. She Loves (Mixed) Fighting techinques: I’ve never benefitted using this personally but one of my clients is a former North American martial arts champ and he’s currently a pretty famous action director and actor. He’s written to me on several occasions in regards to the sexy crazy groupies such as the following him and the people in his circuit - a plentiful selection of physically fit and attractive women are constantly at his discretion. Some of the most beautiful Asian men groupies follow the martial arts circuit, the martial Arts circuit, and similar sports-oriented social circles. If she mentions Nam Pham, Cung Le or Manny Pacquiao…ding ding ding! You have a winner!


4. She Loves Asian Food: Be it sushi, Korean BBQ or Pho, she actually is an Asian food “connoisseur.” If this comes up, use visual imagery to paint a picture in her mind that interests all five senses. The sweet taste of jasmine rice, the aroma of your steaming bowl of pho, the appealing colors of nigiri sushi, the crackling sound of cooking your own personal Korean BBQ, and the cold, soft texture of delicious sashimi are stimulating and also arousing topics. Why, you ask? Because speaking of food like this is sensual…just like sex. The best way to a man’s heart is thru his stomach, right? It applies to beautiful women too.


5. She Knows A little more about Your Mother Country Than You are doing: Even if she has no concrete plans, she’ll express her wants to go there. With the Japanese tsunami, she’ll express sympathy - do not take this as generalizing, she’s just attempting to reach out to you. Play in to these fantasies when you can. Paint a photo about going on a vacation together. Start with romantic depictions of you doing things together, then progress to sensual and end up having sexual. We have to open that door first through verbal imagery progression. Surfing to walking in conjunction sipping on margaritas and coconuts then you’re rolling around in the sand kissing. Use her need to your advantage.


6. She’s a Gamer or Anime-Lover:

 They express interest in anime (Sailor Moon, Akira, Pokemon, etc) and gaming (Final Fantasy and the like). This group of women aren’t really my bag, but whatever floats your boat. If she likes them, fair game, that’s approximately her. If she’s discussing how Akira’s going to be whitewashed then she’s trying to relate to you. Rogues kind of woman really wants to impress you along with her knowledge of the “Asian male plight.” She’s hoping to get you to a point in which you say something to the effect of “That is indeed amazing how much you recognize!” Watch for that and indulge her


7. She Loves Asian Music: Kpop, Jrock, dramas and movies - this kind of girl is infatuated using the Hollywood of the East. They’re probably younger and more attractive, as this is a relatively new phenomenon, but because there’s no representation of SE Asians then she might not go for you if you’re, say, Cambodian or Viet. Or Thai. Or Filipino. Or even Chinese for that matter. I’m not to imply it won’t happen, but I can’t ever think of a time I had been successful with this kind of girl despite my PUA mastery. I recently don’t look East Asian, girly, emo enough. Sometimes, she just simply will not have anything only a BIG BANG boyfriend (in other words, a Korean or Japanese guy).


8. She’ll Compliment Your Asian Attributes: Whether it is your eyes, Asian hair, or pores and skin, she’s going to love them and let you know it at some point in the conversation. Take her on it when she does by putting your forearm as much as hers, or if you feel much more comfortable or if the conversation is going well, take her hand to say the contrasting tones. Intangible such things as intelligence, family, work ethic, second language usually are not uncommon topics either. Women learn through encouragement while men learn through challenge (should you tell a girl she looks sexy because dress, she’ll probably use it again). Just as we had been little boys, we all do melt under the praise of a beautiful woman. When she praises my accomplishments including education or that familiarity with a second language, she’s wanting to help me learn.


9. She Loves Happa Interracial Babies:

 They’ll typically make a comment on how interracial babies are beautiful. You are able to bring this up as well. “Just think…if you and get wed and we had a litter of the most beautiful interracial babies…can you imagine how gorgeous they'd be?” It plays into her fantasy. Just as we men have sexual fantasies, for women who live “family fantasies.” They’ll deny it and push out of their minds to stay emotionally detached, but keep in mind that, by the end of this or any conversation you've got with a female interested in you, she’s already imagined your future life and family…just as you’ve imagined sleeping along with her.


10. She has “Asian-Dating Experience”: This is actually the biggest, most obvious indicator a girl can give you that she’s into Asian men generally and you in specific. Believe me, anytime a girl has ever informed me she had an Asian boyfriend before, I will pretty much romantically connect to her 99.9999% of times. So a white girl that way will say that she has dated an Asian man before. She's going to make this point as well as further - she's going to try to guess your ethnicity to show that she’s “learned in the ways of Asian men” and can prove that “not all of you look the same.” She’ll say she’s dated a person of my ethnicity to create her seem more inviting and receptive if you ask me. So if she’s busting out this big gun, then it’s your decision to close because as signals go, it doesn’t get any bigger than this one.

With, saying, or doing just one of the aforementioned things doesn’t automatically produce a girl attracted to Asian men. But combine a number of those traits as well as all of them together and, gentlemen, you merely might find yourself conversing with one woman who is madly in love with the Asian persuasion.

Remember the #1 Rule: When you do meet that beautiful girl, always leave the lady better than you found her!


I mentioned previously that I was always hesitant to answer this question. Yes, it seems like a simple, straightforward question “What signals do white women give saying she’s approachable and receptive to Asian men?”

So just why haven’t I answered it until now? Unfortunately, the act of thinking means your Not as likely TO SUCCEED with non-Asian women.

It’s a paradox. You see, I’ve always known the technical answer but I’ve always been hesitant to answer because, on a holistic level, it’s NOT empowering to Asian men as a whole to actually know the answer to that question. I really believe that the thousands of men that message me with this question are displaying what is known “learned helplessness.”

Basically, the men to whom the answer to the question “How can one tell if she’s attracted to Asian men (and for that reason me)?” is important, are training themselves to only make a move on a non-Asian women that distinctly signal more forward dating behavior first, before the man does. In other words, he wants a zero-risk, inside the bag, sure-thing, 100% guarantee or perhaps your money back proposition.

As well as in today’s modern world with modern women, the worst thing dating is, is risk-free.

Which means instead of being a confident, masculine Asian man prepared to take risks (who would then naturally attract these women whether white, black or Latina) and playing the Asian Card to find the beautiful woman, he instead turns into the Asian beta male that is only confident when it is instead the woman who takes the original risk. Instead of the most convenient way around which is the man’s role being dominant, forward, plus a leader.

I hope, however, I'm not doing a disservice to Asian men by training to look, and ONLY look, for these specific female signals of attraction first before making a move… Instead of creating a move first then making her drawn to you which she then provides you with signals. That’s the right way.

Laugh your path into her heart (and then her pants)!

As you have seen, I am a very average looking man. I'm a short 5 foot 5 inches and i also know I am not an excellent looking or handsome guy. Every woman I’ve dated is physically (otherwise socially) out of my league. I never get those kind of indicators of interest or signals of attraction. You should never expect them because I certainly don’t and my success with the most beautiful women continues to be documented and faithfully captured through the media around the world.

Instead, use these signals and indicators of curiosity to your “Asianness” that she’s becoming attracted to you AFTER you’ve approached her and reached know her. You need to take these 10 Signals She’s Drawn to Asian Men as signs that you should STAY when you’re already inside a conversation with her as opposed to viewing them as indicators for you to initially approach her.

In the long run, what I’ve discovered with females that specifically they enjoy Asian men are either in it for relationship material or sugar daddies. They’ll love to be there but be cautious because you’ll get restricted quickly with a girl that chose you, not a girl YOU chose, the industry gross difference.

And after answering this time tested question, in my next controversial interracial Asian Male White Female dating article, I’m planning to address the 13 Forms of Women Who Exploit Asian Men! Yes indeed, you will find women who will use the above signals because she’s only interested in your “Asianness”, but not for your reasons that you might think.

If you haven’t had the chance to get to know yourself and know women, then I’d save these girls for later - in the end, you’re here to learn pick up, and quitting the game early isn’t fair to yourself also to the many women you have yet to meet.

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